The Plunge Blog for Jeff tagged 'Complications'

How to: Deal with a Best Man Dropping the Ball

Wed, 25 May 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes: "We're getting married on a cruise ship. We gave everyone almost a year's notice. About 15 people from her side, and my mom and dad will be attending the ceremony/reception on the boat before we set sail for our honeymoon. "None of my wedding party has agreed to come, some because they can't a [...]

She Forbids Strippers. What Do You Do?

Wed, 18 May 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"Okay I want a bachelor party......and my girl doesn't care if I have one. I was thinking of going to the strip club with the fellas having a couple of drinks, going home and playing cards/X-box 360/ Bones (dominoes).....the works ya know?

"But my girl has a problem with the strip club.....and strippe [...]

No Sex in Engagement: Should They Call it Off?

Fri, 15 Apr 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A female reader writes:

"i found this site and i think its WONDERFUL. i love reading things from the man's point of view, but now i need a LOT of help.

"My fiance and i started dating almost 2 years ago and we would have sex a few times a week-perfect for me. then after 2 months of dating he left for a deployment (he's in the na [...]

Woman Asks: What if the Groom Just Doesn't Give a Damn?

Wed, 06 Apr 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"First of all, love your website. Yep, I'm a chick, I hate wedding porn. I find it obnoxious. I love how honest this website is.

"I have a question. It's about my fiancé...I'm torn. Maybe it's just a dream of mine but I'd like to think he can have as much fun at the wedding as I can. Maybe not [...]

How To: Replace a Fallen Groomsman

Mon, 14 Mar 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"One of my groomsmen called me to let me know his wife's mother is seriously ill.

"Because they are taking on her bills--and taking her into their home--he will be unable to come to our wedding which is next summer.

"I have a friend who was in the running to be a groomsman but I ended up [...]

What If You Don’t Have a Best Man?

Wed, 02 Mar 2011 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

I am having problems finding someone to identify as a Best Man. I have a couple of close friends who I can use as Groomsmen, but I can't really see anyone as able to fill the role of Best Man.

"My former best friend and I don't talk anymore and I don't have anyone that can handle the responsibilit [...]

Jealous of Her Sexual Past? This Dude Is. What Should He Do?

Fri, 07 Jan 2011 05:00:00 +0100

In the Plunge Forums, a reader writes:

"I'm the guy that was never popular in high school, doesn't have many friends, and was never given the time of day until college started. I'm 21 years old now, as is my fiancée.

"She was the girl that everybody wanted all th [...]

What to Do if: Your Parents Don’t Approve of Her

Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:00:00 +0100

Plunge reader Ryanh007 posts in the forums:

"You meet girl. You fall in love with girl. You want to marry girl. What do you do if your family doesn't like her? This isn't the irrational "Nobody is good enough for my boy" dislike, its the irrational "Her family isn't as g [...]

Will Your Wife Stay Hot When You Get Old?

Wed, 17 Nov 2010 05:00:00 +0100

In most areas of life, my talents are modest. I'm not a particularly great athlete, chess player, or flutist. I can't whistle.

One thing that at The Plunge that we're quite excellent at, however, is pissing people off.

Latest example? In our piece The 10 Dumbest Reasons to Get Married, we wrote the following:

" [...]

If Parents Are Paying, Do You Control Guest List?

Mon, 08 Nov 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"My fiancee's mother is very involved with our planning, which at times is not a problem at all. However, we are almost 50 people over what we had wanted to invite for our wedding.

"Her mom keeps insisting that we invite her cousins' son (who my bride-to-be has never met), and refuses to back down. [...]

Should You: "Un-Invite" The Ex?

Tue, 12 Oct 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"I am engaged to a very wonderful woman. An issue came up though involving her childhood friend/first boyfriend.

"The two of them grew up together. They were best friends for many years and they dated each other for a short amount of time (3 months I believe). She met me when she moved out here for college an [...]

Is a 17-Year-Old Brother Too Young to be Best Man?

Thu, 30 Sep 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"I'm trying to decide on my best man.

"My actual best friend is my younger brother who is 17 (I'm 25). My other groomsmen are my friends, but nowhere neat as close as my brother and I are.

"Is 17 too young to be a best man?

"He's going to have to give a speech and be t [...]

Rehearsal Dinner: How to Handle a Wacky Ratio

Mon, 27 Sep 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes in the comments:

"In regards to the Rehearsal dinner, I am in a unique situation. Every one of my guests is from out of town.

"None of my bride's guests are from out of town.

"I know it is traditional to invite all out of town guests to the Rehearsal dinner, but what is t [...]

"I Slept with My Fiancee’s Best Friend."

Tue, 07 Sep 2010 05:00:00 +0100

Okay, so the title's a touch misleading. (Yes, he did sleep with the best friend, but no, at the time, he wasn't dating his fiancée.)

A reader writes:

"I met my fiancée in college. We were great friends but she was in a relationship for the first 2 years I knew her. She knew I was interested but she loved the guy at the [...]

"I Got a Lap Dance, and She's Pissed. Help."

Thu, 02 Sep 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"My fiancée told me she didn't care about strippers but didn't want them touching me. I took it to mean she'd just be annoyed because that's how I'd feel if she had male strippers rubbing up on her. I'd be annoyed. So I thought I was doing good when I was honest and told her i'd gotten a lap dance from the stripper my be [...]

What to Do If: The Parents Demand You Wait

Tue, 31 Aug 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes:

"My fiance's parents want to wait 2 years for the wedding. They are paying for it, and just threw their other daughter a wedding, so I understand that money is tight. I am not in a position to contribute, but my parents have offered to help out.

Both my fiance and I think 2 years is too [...]

How Do You Cope with Irrational Jealousy?

Thu, 19 Aug 2010 05:00:00 +0100

From a reader:

"I have a question for you guys. I love my fiancée more then anything, but I am having one issue. I have a serious jealousy issue with her past. When I get mad at her I cant help but think of all the other guys she's been with and how she must have liked being with them more then me. I know it sounds childis [...]

What to Do If: She Wants Her Guy-Friends as Groomsmen

Wed, 11 Aug 2010 05:00:00 +0100

A reader writes us with the following, which demands to be printed in its entirety:

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"Here's my problem. My fiancée asked me if she should have my sister as a bridesmaid. I told her my sister wouldn't care either way, so it was up to her.

My fiancée asked my mom (good call) and [...]

Dealing with Post-Wedding Stress

Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:00:00 +0100

There's an old legend about the ancient Greeks. When an athlete triumphed in a sporting event, to congratulate him, the fans would hoist him on their shoulders and yell, "Die Now! Die Now!"

The athlete was at his peak. The apex of his life. "Die Now" meant that he would never, ever be as happy as he was this moment; so to avoid th [...]

Co-workers at the Wedding: In or Out?

Wed, 14 Jul 2010 05:00:00 +0100

It's Saturday night. Close your eyes and imagine a guys night out-pitchers, shooting pool, grilled steaks, baseball game, whatever the hell it is you do.

Think about who you'd invite for this. Your buddies. Your real friends. Do you include your boss? Or your other random co-workers?

NO.

Because they're not your friends, the [...]