New guy with a problem here, hope some of you can relate or give advice.

Here goes:

My fiance and I have been engaged for almost a year, and our wedding is in just under 2 months.  It has been great to this point in that our parrnts, friends all seem to be getting along, no bridezilla issues, no mother in laws from hell, etc...  We have agreed on everything having to do with the wedding and life there after up and all has been good.  About a month ago is when the problem started.  My fiance has a friend/mentor who has always annoyed me a bit but over all we haven't had any problems.  Around the end of January or the beginning of February, her friend started giving a lot of advice that has negatively impacted our relationship.  She has started to really push my bride to be on a lot of issues which she feels are necessary to have a happy and healthy marriage.

It started with her friend advising her that unless we stopped having sex immediately and abstained until the marriage that we would never have a happy marriage.  She went on to advise her that if I didn't like it that was tough and that making the decision, even unilaterally would be the best thing for us in the long run.  Now her friend is pregnant and is telling her that she should start thinking about having kids as soon as we get married and and quit school and work because being a stay at home mom is where it's at.  again this goes contrary to everything we had talked about and decided up till now.  Finally her friend apparently thinks she's on good enough terms with me that sunday she told me she needed my fiance to work a health fair with her because she needed "eye candy" but she didn't need any help from me.

To make things even more awkward her friend is also one of her dads bosses so saying anything, which would have been hard enough before, is even more difficult now.  All I want is my fiance back and not someone who is on auto pilot until the wedding on bad advice from someone who really shouldn't be as involved as she is.  My fiance keeps telling me that everything will go back to normal after the wedding but if she is taking this type of goofey advice now it makes me wonder what she's going to do after we're married.

Any advice or sympathy would be greatly appriciated because this is stressing me out.  Thanks for listening to my rant

My advice is to let it go. It's between you and your wife to be , dont let other people make disions for you both. It's your choice talk it out and do whats comfortable for you both.. I hope this helps.

rooker09

Here's the best advice I can give:

1.  When your fiancee brings these issues to you, explain to her that each relationship is different, and that you two have a plan and it must be working because you are getting married.

2.  If she insists on following through on her friend's advice, hear her out, and if not ridiculous, follow along.

3.  If it is ridiculous, tell your fiancee that she should stand up to her friends.