hey folks,

I'm new to this site and forum, so forgive me if you've heard this question a thousand times before.

I'm very seriouly thinking of getting engaged.

I'm 27 and have been with my girlfriend for over five years and we've lived together for two. We both have full-time jobs and our lives are great. Our relationship is great, so it's not really a question of IF we'll get engaged/married, but when.

Despite being together for a long time I had never given it much thought until recently when we started going to a lot of friends' weddings, and, her parents started giving me a bit of hard time about it. Always just playful ball breaking though.

Anyway, I guess my actual question is, should I get engaged just because it's probably time? Or do I have to wait for a "moment" when I know it's time?

Thanks folks.

My fiancée and I have been planning the wedding party for some time now. She pretty much has asked all of her bridemaids-to-be and gotten approval on all of them. But, I haven't asked my groomsmen-to-be and best man yet. Little background info: our wedding isn't planned until 2012 we have 5 each in the parties, I'm the last in the family to get married, the only son in the family, and my fiancée is the first in her family to get married.

However, when talking to my mom over the weekend, she asked who my Best Man was and I told her my mentor/friend from college (who I'm closer to than any of my other friends, even fraternity brothers). She was shocked and told me that my Dad should be my best man. I've heard situations like this, but the traditional thing is to have your best friend be your Best Man.

My situation is this: Do I go the traditional route and pick my mentor/friend from college to be my Best Man, or ask my Dad and bump my mentor/friend down a spot? I'd hate to ask my mentor/friend to be it and have my Dad crushed by the news if he was expecting to be my Best Man.

I've seen a few responses on the forum about having two best men. If anybody has had experience with that, how'd it turn out? That would be an ultimate solution to this problem, but I'd like some feedback first before I actually ask anybody and get it down in stone...if you know what I mean.

In my wedding. The bridesmaids came down the aisle, the groomsmen escort them to their post, then went over to my side. The ringbearer and flowergirl strolled down the aisle, came to me, and then I escort them back to the aisle they came from to their mother, and stand there while the bride marched towards me. I then looped in behind her and her dad and stopped back at my place. I did more than just stand there, but didnt walk down the aisle.

If thats not good enough, walking your mom down the aisle sounds fine to me.

We need more info, brah. Does your brother not mind being around a bunch of drinking? Does he abhor it? Does he like pro sports? Does he like video gaming? Can he just chill with a bunch of dudes, or does he need an activity to "drive" the event?

My bachelor party was under similar constraints. I am a Christian, and dont drink. But, I dont mind being around people who are drinking. I had alot of fun hanging out with my brothers and groomsmen in a sportsbar the night before my wedding just shooting pool and laughing it up.

For my bachelor party, we went to St. Louis and watched two NHL hockey games in two consecutive nights. But, that was the only good part. After they hockey game, they all went to strip clubs(which I made clear I had no desire to go to MONTHS in advance), and I went to bed early.

If you want him to have a good time, figure out what he likes and PLAN AHEAD. Do your research. Going somewhere by the seat of your pants will end up in a bunch of guys unable to pick anything good for lack of knowledge of their surroundings.

I'm new to the forums, definitely not new to The Plunge. And I'm coming here needing a bit of help.

Kelsey, my fiancee, is great, and she loves to register for anything. One of those things, turned out to be a free wedding in Bermuda through The Knot. Finally, The Knot does something right. We're now finalist and need as many votes as possible.

All you have to do is click the link below, type the encrypted word and click vote. It takes ten seconds, and I promise, from experience, The Knot will is not trying to sale you anything. Also, the contest goes through June 15, and you can vote once per day per computer.

http://global.theknot.com/contests/bermuda-destination-wedding/Story.aspx?EntryId=12298&FinalistId=84

Please help me! (I know I'm not supposed to use exclamation points as a man, but this is urgent.) If we do not win, I'm destined to plan a 2011 wedding, with two, way too involved mothers. Also, I know I'm new to the site but this is legit. I really have to win this damn thing.

Jason